· Islam has made commitment with the religion the primary basis for selecting a husband or a wife.
· The Muslim practice of the rites of his religion is a doctrine and behavior is a key factor in achieving the familial stability.
· The study confirms that the deterioration of dialogue and communication between the two spouses constitutes 28% of the causes of divorce.
· Deterioration of the familial situations prompts institutions and associations that have made the Islamic values a starting point to solve marital problems.
Adherence to Islamic values constitutes a key factor in the success of the family institution and enhancing its community role, while its absence leads to the growing phenomenon of familial disintegration and limits its role in life. The consequent the high rates of divorce on one hand and the emergence of a state of marital discontent on the other.
In this context, a valuable scientific study revealed "the moderate role in religiosity of the couple in creating integration, psychological and behavioral satisfaction in the marital relationship. In "a field study" of a family and adolescence consultant and professor at the Faculty of Social Sciences at Kuwait University, Dr. Humoud Al-Qasha'n who said that individuals who are the most religious individuals are the most satisfied and happy in their martial life. It may be useful to tackle the findings of this valuable study in two parts.
It is important to put the marital relationship in a religious sacred context not in a personal frame or a civil contract – as the study reveals-. It indicated that Islam has made the commitment to religion the primary basis on which the choice of a husband or wife is based upon, because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “if a person comes to you of whose religion and character you are satisfied with then get him married. If you do not, it will be sedition on the earth and much corruption."
The study which tackled the relationship between the level of religiosity on one hand and the level of martial satisfaction on the other hand, emphasizing that there are no statistically significant differences between the two sexes (males - females) on a scale of religiosity and that male and female in the Kuwaiti society have similar trends and obligations to religion. They practice its rites closely without the existence of significant differences. The study indicated the importance of guiding the new couples who are about to get married and those who are married alike to adhere to the rights and marriage obligations as defined by Islam, in addition to the importance of devising the Sunas urged and practiced by the Prophet (peace be upon him), because the practice of the Muslim to his religion rites is an important and essential factor to the achievement of satisfaction and family stability.
Questions on the level of commitment
The study tried to answer a series of questions: What's the degree of religious commitment at a sample of Kuwaiti citizens? Is there a difference between men and women in the degree of religious commitment? Do people differ in religiosity degree according to the educational and economic levels, residential areas? Do religious people differ from non-religious ones in terms of the level of marital satisfaction? What is the most religious rituals' influence of satisfaction at the marital couple?
The study was conducted on a random sample of 2523 male and female members from all the governorates of the State of Kuwait. The questionnaire including variables of the study in terms of gender, age, duration of marriage, educational level and the level of monthly income, and other variables that the researcher believes the probability of its impact and relevance to the study goals has been distributed included.
The impact of religiosity
The study revealed that the most religious individuals, were the most satisfied in their marital life and the males are higher than females in terms of the level of satisfaction with the marital relationship. When comparing the two sexes according to the level of religiosity, the study did not reveal any statistical significance differences among the males and females in terms of the level of religiosity.
On the other hand, the study proved existence of distinct differences between each of the variables of age, length of married life, income level and degree of martial satisfaction and stressed that religious is a belief and behavior, and that there are distinct indications that the religion rectifies the behavior and the soul alike.
The study findings comes help the social workers, psychologists and family specialists to understand the needs of visitors to the advisory psychological or family centers who ask for advice that would contribute in taking the scientific decisions to be implemented to achieve the best cherished results for the society as a whole.
Factors of the martial life stability
Dr. Humoud Al-Qasha'n said in his study that the follower of Arabic studies that deals with factors of stability and success of martial life realize diversity and the difference of studies' findings on these factors. Some studies stressed the importance of a good choice as the basis for the success of marriage, while others confirmed the trust and dialogue. The study proved that the deterioration of dialogue and communication between the two spouses is the causes 28% of divorce, while others stressed the importance of the religion and following its teachings are important in family preservation and to ensure its continuity. They see the family disintegration is due to the selfish commitment to religion and control of the individual motives of selfishness and love of pleasures and desires.
Confirming the importance of religion in maintaining the family stability, institutions with a religious type whether Muslim, Christian or Jewish have emerged. They all confirm the importance of religion as a factor in keeping the marital bond. For example, in Texas in the United States Prep institutions were found. They are concerned rehabilitating the new couple in the context of the Church. Also, there is a coalition of marriage in the framework of the church under the name of Smart Marriage Coalition, which holds its annual conference in the U.S. capital in light of conforming the importance of religiosity in the maintenance of continuity marriage.
On the level of the Arab world, especially in the Arab Gulf states, institutions of a religious type are interested in family and marriage within the framework of religion and religiosity have emerged.
In the State of Kuwait, "the lamps of guidance" (Masabeeh Al-Huda) started a committee awareness campaigns and courses for couples who are married and those who are about to get married. Then a family fund and marital happiness fund of Awqaf Public Foundation were established.
In Bahrain the Bashayer committee has emerged. It's like the Kuwait guidance committee in terms goal and means.
In the UAE civil and governmental institutions have emerged most important of them are the Marriage Fund and the Office of female citizens affairs.
In Qatar, family development house was active in the conservation and stability of the Qatari family.
On the level of the other Arab countries, Society of chastity (Al-Afaf) in Jordan has emerged. It is concerned with in the same objectives as the Gulf societies. These institutions and similar attempt to other maintain the stability of the family in the Arab society as they rely on the Islamic religion in their efforts to achieve this goal. Here, the importance of relationship between religiosity and marital satisfaction as a first basis to maintain the family and to ensure its stability.
Dr. Al-Qasha'n confirmed that Western studies assure on the role of religion and the necessity to adhere to it in assessing the individual and people's behavior, while the Arab Studies concerned with the direct relationship between religion and marital life are rare, with the exception of some studies that have used metrics to assess the degree of religiosity and its relationship with some other social and behavioral phenomena.
He added there are also other studies that were conducted to measure some of the factors, ideas and concepts related to religion, while there have been studies that are largely similar to the study of factors affecting the religiosity among the university youth. Other similar studies on the religious commitment among adolescents secondary schools.
Other studies were conducted on the relationship of religion with mental health and psychology. For example, studies appeared on the relationship between religiosity and both neuroticism, extraversion, self-confidence and others. All of them emphasize the importance of the relationship of religion with mental health, while there was a study on the relationship of religion to some fears among university students.
As for the role of religiosity and its relationship with the family life the researcher did not find anything except for press reports and articles in family magazines. Therefore, the researcher was obliged to mainly depended upon Western studies to clarify the relationship among the study variables, despite the different meaning of religiosity in real application between both Judaism and Christianity on the one hand and Islam on the other. However, we will not neglect this research, carried out by Arab scholars to try to confirm the comparison the findings of their studies with the findings of Western researchers about the relationship between religiosity and the family life.
Although the study - as Dr. Al-Qasha'n points out- does not aim to measure the degree of marital satisfaction between the two spouses different in religion, but should be pointed out to the importance of similarity of religion as an important factor for marital satisfaction, as the similarities and convergence of ideologies and level of spouses, religiosity would positively influence the degree of quality dialogue between the two spouses on one hand and confirmation of the depth of the compatibility and compassion between the spouses on the other hand (Lias & Steven, 1994).
The similarity of the religion of the two spouses determines the degree of family cohesion and level of satisfaction. In a study on Jewish Americans marriage with each other on one hand and their marriage with members of the Christians on the other hand, it was clear the high divorce on the multiplier at the marriage of Jews from non-Jews. Divorce was double at the Jewish marriage with and non-Jewish individuals which reached (32%), while the divorce rate among couples of the same religion reached (17%) only.
In contrast to those studies that confirmed the association of marital satisfaction with religiosity, some studies had reservations against generalizations about the impact of religiosity in the martial life. The study of (Filsinger & Wilson, 1984) confirmed the impact of religiosity lies in the rehabilitation two parties to the marriage to resolve their marital problems and not providing them with the skills of solving their marital problems. Religiosity itself is affected by the pattern of personality of each of the two spouses.
The conclusion the religion is considered the key factor in the stability of marital and familial life. Every two couples should know his/her rights and duties that are stipulated by the Islamic legislation to live in happiness in this world and the Hereafter as confirmed by the study in the first part. God willing, we will discuss in part two more detailed Islamic view regarding the martial life as conducted in the study.